You’ve been seeing them for a while now, a little more than a month. You usually meet up a couple times a week, for just sex, and frankly, it’s the best you’ve had in a while.
One night they text you, asking if you want to come over. Before you know it you’re at their door and go inside.
The sex you had is amazing once again, and you’re laying in bed together. That’s when they drop the hint that they want you to leave the thing is, you really don’t want to.
Well, you’ve caught the feels and it’s hitting you harder than a bong rip after taking a two month break from that flower.
If you’ve reached this point, you’ve gone too far. It’s best to abort the mission and save yourself from the heartbreak.
Catching the feels for your fwb isn’t always in your game plan, but it happens all the time. We can’t help it when the heart wants what the brain says it can’t have.
To prevent this from happening (or happening again), there are some things you need to know, which will be discussed below.
One thing you can do to keep your feels to yourself and fully intact is to distance yourself from your bang buddy. Limit your contact with them by texting them only once a week or just wait for them to text you first.
By doing this you’ll keep them out of your thoughts for the most part, and the less you think about them, the less likely you are to start to get hit right in the feels.
This will also help sustain the nature of the casual relationship, since you’ll both know it’s just about sex and that you don’t rely on each other for anything else.
Another thing you can do is to actually set some ground rules with them. An example would be to only text each other at night, or only on the weekends.
You can also let them know that you’ll just meet each other and the places you live, rather than meeting up for drinks or something beforehand. This will keep it a bit more informal, as you don’t really treat each other as friends and definitely not as people who are dating.
Since you only meet up at each other’s places right before you have sex, this will help both of you remember the nature of the relationship.
If you ever find yourself infatuated with your bang buddy, you’re not alone. Many have been there, and many will find themselves in the same situation.
A few ways to prevent this are too distance yourselves by limiting contact, setting basic rules, or end the friend with benefits setup quickly, before things get out of hand.
If you keep these in mind, you’ll find that your feels are intact and once you stop sleeping with each other you don’t feel depressed or used. Don’t let these tips get in your way of having a good time, and most importantly, wrap that shit up!